Wednesday, May 9, 2018

Screen time addict

Image result for internet addiction cartoonThe efforts we take to protect our children may seem profound and unchallenged but when taken in the context of the risks they face our efforts are less than stellar.  Stopping a child from falling off a cliff or engaging in risky behavior is often easily defined and the proper intervention is clear, but when the risks are unseen, unheard and unknown the motivation to protect is often overlooked or ignored.

How do we protect those in our charge when we don’t understand the problem or how do even know what to do when we have little or no understanding of the insidious nature of those unknown risks that inundate our children and beleaguer our unsuspecting youth? In other words, how do we know what to do when we don’t even know that we should know?

What makes life so different now, as opposed to anytime in the past is the constant and oppressive constraints influencing all we think, all we do and all we think of doing.  Never have so many been so infected by something so innocuously poisonous.  We are a society drowning but not knowing it, dying but not admitting to the internal disease that is inexorably destroying all that we once were.
If this sounds a bit hyperbolic then consider the following statistics:

73% of young people between the ages of 18-34 would rather text than talk in person.  This may seem innocuous but in relation to how our children are acting and reacting the simple statistic and the pervasiveness of the problem becomes clear.  We are raising socially inept children, forcing them to live the life of autistic, self-absorbed and internally driven miscreants that only thrive when they get their way but not ever understanding that they are the problem.  

62% would rather leave home without their wallet than their phone.  Telling us that their identity is inexorably related to their online persona rather than the physical being of who they really are.
For users between the years 16-25 350 million social media users are addicted.  There is a slight difference between males and females but only by 8% favoring Males who check their social media at least 10 times per day.  

There are excuses for these tragic numbers, but the results of those oversights are having disastrous consequences, not only for ourselves but by increasing severity for our young.  My generation was enthralled with the new technologies, but we were oblivious to the looming consequences that now include a precipitous drop in civility and mainstream socialization. 

31% of adolescents freely admit to reading and writing on a social media site while sitting on the toilet.

45% of users check their timeline while eating.

 37% of students admitted that their social media updates were more interesting than a classroom lecture.  Hmm, that one might be right…

The University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine reported that “The more time one spends on social media the more likely they are to become depressed or suicidal.”  In other words, the more time online = less satisfaction with Real Life.

We are literally raising children who fail to grasp the realities of existence and then turn to social media for answers that further distort their already skewed level of rational thought.

91% of school-aged children post their photos online.  

25% of those photos were of naked children, posted by those same children.

92% use their real names.  

The good part is that at least they're honest with their identity, the negative part is they have no idea of the future ramifications of their actions nor the risk to that identity as others with fewer morals prey upon that openness.

I've not even mentioned the hundreds or thousands of Apps that can be accessed that allow our children to hide what they do, hide what they see, share with others what they don't want their parents to see, the list goes on and on.  We, this country, our children are in crisis.  Depression is on the rise, suicides are increasing and bullying is rampant across the web.   

The future we have allowed to happen is a direct result of our ignorance and our willingness to connect with our children in meaningful ways.  There is no excuse for ignorance but our unwillingness to intervene now, when we do know, when we do understand, goes far beyond irresponsibility and squarely into the camp of an alienation disorder with the subtext of creating a delusional, illusion of sanity and responsible behavior, in other words “what I don’t know can’t be real, so why bother….

Perhaps we should sit down and rethink our own priorities.  Sit our children down and let them know we’ve had enough, we’re the parents and we have decided to grow up, take the heat, make the hard choices and help them heal from the devastation of not knowing, we do know now….  We can no longer let 15-year olds tell us what is best, what is right or wrong and we can no longer put off being parents.  If we fail to act now we will forever reap the bloody consequences of our inaction.