Saturday, May 28, 2022

Change is good

I don’t think I have to quote statistics or site specific studies in relation to how happiness is created rather than purchased.  “The Happiest People don't have the best of everything, They just MAKE the best of everything.”  I’m not even sure who coined that phrase, but it was sent to me by my wife, who has lived her life Making the best of Everything.  

There really is a simple answer to all of our current problems,  do you want to guess what that answer would be?  Here is a hint, it’s written above in bold/ Italicized words, but if you need a clearer understanding of what I am trying to get at, let me repeat myself.  “The Happiest People don't have the best of everything, They just MAKE the best of everything.”

There is obviously some debate regarding what is happiness but, the general rule is contentment, cheery and joyful.  Being content with your surroundings, your life, your station.  This is not to suggest that being content means not wanting to improve, but it’s understanding that we can be content while striving to improve or expand, or alter our lives.  Perhaps it’s like having a job, being grateful for your employment, thinking positively about your job, but also realizing that you can do better.  

Instead of going to work each day and crumble or complain about your current situation, you smile, are cheerful and try to seek out the positives of this aspect of your life, grateful for the opportunity that you have to work, earn and have the freedom to do so.

For those who are not naturally happy, this process can be difficult.  We often follow a pattern of behavior that prompts us to act in accordance with how we have acted in the past.   Old habits are hard to overcome.  Or, it's hard to train and old dog new tricks, but when you think about it, most of us have the capability to learn and expand, regardless of our decisions, patterns or current mindset.

As we strive to change our behaviors and accept the reality that, happiness is our goal, we will eventually become what we practice.  I think most of us agree with this, and understand the value of acting toward a given goal, and in this case happiness.

I can hear the naysayers now:  but our economy is so bad, gas prices are so high, our politicians are this or the government is that etc…etc…etc…we can always find much more wrong with our lives if we choose to focus on those negative and harmful emotions.

The opposite is also true.  If we focus on the good, the wholesome, the kind and the beautiful, we can develop new engrams into our thought processes, and in so doing develop new attitudes of positivity that supersede the old ways of negativity, that used to cloud our judgements, alter our emotions and disturb our peace of mind.  

One good example from my life comes from a recent condition that forced me to adopt the above process literally. I developed a blood clot in my right leg, the pain was excruciating and debilitating. I was told I needed surgery ASAP, but didn't like how the doctor was trying to push me into that surgery. I eventually went to the emergency room and I was checked in to the hospital for three days and two sleepless nights. Not my favorite place to be.

The good news, however was that I was able to see different doctors, that agreed that surgery was not warranted, but I had to start walking. I had to walk through the pain and force my veins to reroute my blood flow away from the clot, that was 100% blocked.

At first I could only take a few steps before the pain stopped me from moving, but everyday I walked longer and everyday I improved. I am now walking about three miles a day and the pain is lessoned considerably. We can all change, we can all improve our lives.

The simplicity of this suggestion is universally available to everyone who wants to live a happier and more fulfilling life; they only have to want it, and live in accordance with that principle.  

My best advice is to try it.  You can start now.  No training is needed, no education is required, just you and your mind making the decision to want to live a happier life, regardless of your current situation, in spite of your surroundings, your income, or lack of, your marriage, or lack of, your relationships, your skin color, your background, your mistakes…Do I really have to spell it out here?

Even if you're in the most dire of situations, a prisoner or in prison you can decide right now to start to look at life as a positive and not a negative and begin to reap the benefits of this new you, this changed person, who now looks at this life as the gift that it is.  

I beg you to try, what have you got to lose?  I mean, really what do you have to lose?

There is no better time than now, this weekend is perfect, we are celebrating Memorial day.  This day we honor our fallen soldiers who gave their lives for us.  We show gratitude for their efforts to keep us free and safe.

Of course there are those who only use this day as a day off or even those who feel anger or shame about our countries role in these “unjust wars or conflicts”, but let's leave the negativity behind us this weekend and be grateful for those who died.  They may not have understood the politics or the reasons why they fought but they did and we should HONOR them for their SACRIFICES

What better day, or time is there to start thinking of HAPPINESS than this Memorial Day, 2022.  We can all use a bit more happiness, don’t you think?

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